Manners Make the Person
Teenagers are the future leaders of the world and have a great impact on their society in the present. The only way to tell the difference between good and bad behaviors is through manners. Discipline during childhood and adolescence is extremely important but not exclusive to the parents. It’s true that it all starts with the parents and from the nuclear family, but teens build their characters from their environment. Also, the most powerful role model in any child’s life is the same-sex parent. It’s a fact that children learn vicariously by observing the behavior of others and noting the consequences of their actions. My first book “Princess in the making” is about manners for little kids, and the main characters in the book are my own daughters “Sofia” and “Eva”. At home, we consistently speak about manners and how to be the best versions of ourselves. The author claims.
The author wrote this book with her children in mind, because “I want them to have a friendly and easy way to read the etiquette guide that would help them to navigate through life with manners and confidence.” Samira Hammadi states.
Having manners is cool.
She was inspired by her own 13 years old version and decided to remind the next generations, through this book, that having manners is cool. As she says “being polite is trendy. Also, honesty, respect and consideration are your passport for the life you are aiming to have.”
Good and healthy habits are not implemented overnight, it takes time, effort and consistency to develop good, healthy and virtuous habits. During adolescence, teens discover new traits within themselves and start to build their personalities.
Teens are usually rebellious and tough to manage, act like they own the world and the universe should comply to their desires and needs. Sometimes, they feel entitled to have everything they want, then they grow up and get a reality check and a reality shock. They realize that they’re not special, their mothers can’t get them promotions and they can’t get anything they want in life just because they want it. Therefore, we need to teach kids and teenagers early on proper manners and disciplines that shall prepare them for the real world. The author affirms.
Being rebellious can cause teenagers to make wrong decisions and take wrong actions and that shall make all the difference. Samira Hammadi writes “Teenage is the best time to define, modify and build your character as you want. It’s the time you decide who and what you want to be.”
Etiquettes and manners can improve your life and change it for the better. It can grant you a better present and a brighter future. Humans are always seeking excellence and trying to improve themselves and their lives, that’s why I am in the process of writing an etiquette book for ladies because it’s never too late to learn, even though it’s better if learned at a young age. I deeply believe in the saying “a gentleman is not defined by the content of his wallet or the cut of his suit. He is defined by his manners and content of his character.” The author believes.
If you’re eager to have a successful future and get everything you desire in your life, you better start learning mannerism, and “Having manners is the new cool” is the right book for you that will guide you and help you achieve that. It shall hold your hand and teach you the good manners in every aspect of life by simply following baby steps. You need to sacrifice to develop a valuable moral, so, if you have determination, consistency and goodwill, you’re good to go and this book will change the way you act and react. It will help you to uproot old habits and replace them with new healthy ones. Etiquettes make people respect you. There is nothing better than respect in life!
If you’ve watched historical movies, you must have seen how princes and princesses were raised in ancient times. They were taught to have the highest level of courtesy to get the respect they deserve and to be role models to the people. Act like a prince or a princess and people will treat like one. Moreover, birds of a feather flock together. Just as the saying goes, you will only attract people with the same behaviors as yours, whether bad or good.
Samira Hammadi has made it her mission to teach you, teens, how to enhance your personalities and mingle with top-class individuals. She will teach you how to overcome bad habits that have put you in trouble in the past. If there is one thing she can change in this world, it would be making “manners and etiquette” a mandatory subject in every school curriculum, so you better get prepared!
“Most people believe that it is only for the elite. But, I am convinced that if it was freely accessible to everyone, it will not only change the children’s attitude, but the course of humanity. Just imagine living in a world where everyone is honest, respectful and considerate, there would be no hatred, racism or wars. Changing the world starts with raising well-mannered children.” The author claims.
In case you don’t know, the author defines etiquette as the decent and acceptable behavior that differentiates humans from animals. It’s simply the code of polite conduct. Thus, be polite and kind, always. Behave reasonably, responsibly and appropriately. You should never act in a way that might embarrass or put others in an uncomfortable situation.
Hammadi brings her wisdom to remind you that rules are meant to be broken and lines are meant to be stepped over. Manners will last and never be broken like rules if they’re lived as a lifestyle.
Manners don’t work if you’re pretending, forcing them, or following rules. Do NOT get confused by fake etiquette. Socially and morally acceptable deeds depend on your perspective.
The author will teach you through this book how to behave the right way, at the right time in the right place. She categorizes etiquettes into 8 categories that are crucial to lead a successful life and thrive in the world. The book is a detailed guide with clear instructions that will teach the proper wat to behave in society and to lead a clean and healthy lifestyle.
Isn’t it amazing to be able to learn how to be well-mannered in every aspect of life. It’s fascinating to have manners while eating, communicating, speaking, presenting, during meetings or wedding, etc.
Having mannerism is required to earn respect and admiration among peers and colleagues, it shows that you’re cultured and well trained, it leaves reputable marks everywhere you go and it leaves a perpetual first impression with others.
Samira Hammadi is adamant to teach every teen out there how to build a life of loyalty and trust, how to become responsible and mature, how to value and maintain relationships, how to build self-esteem and confidence, how to overcome anxiety and nervousness and act appropriately in society, and many more things to improve your life.
“Old habits die hard.” Habits get harder to implement or change the older you get. So, the earlier, the better, because we all know that the best predictor of future behavior is relevant past behavior.
So, if you’re a well-mannered child or teen, you will, most probably, be a respectful and responsible adult.
As the author writes “proper training starts from home”, we realize that it all starts at home Learning basic etiquettes, which may seem insignificant and unimportant, is the main pillar of your manners. Saying simple words like “please” and “thank you” might seem easy to say but they are magic words. Be humble, apologize when you have to, and remember that “sorry” is not a weakness. It just shows that you’re mature enough to admit your wrongdoings. The author argues.
The author also imparts with the readers of this book some bits of her wisdom:
Do NOT interrupt someone who’s speaking and have the courtesy to listen till the end. This habit is better practiced with your family. Learn to listen before you speak.
Respect everyone regardless of their age.
Always ask for permission when you should to.
Do NOT be an intruder in someone else’s privacy.
Learn to have the virtue of appreciation and gratitude.
Watch your language and avoid people who don’t.
Remember that greetings can work wonder in your relationships, if you combine the three magical tools: smile, eye contact and handshakes. That’s how you build bonds and rapport with people.
Be a happy virus that people would love to be around! Give them good vibes.
Take care of your personal hygiene, always, at all times!
Be an eloquent speaker, smooth communicator and things will happen for you the way you want them to! Touch people’s hearts before their minds.
Avoid gossiping at all costs. That’s a bad and disrespectful attitude towards yourself and towards people, equally. People will hate you for it, because as the saying goes “if they do it with you, they will do it to you”. So, people who badmouth others to you, will most probably, badmouth you to others.
Do NOT use your phone while talking to people, it just shows that you’re careless and uninterested in them.
Do NOT ask rude questions, nor reply rudely to rude ones!
In Rome, do as Romans do! Remember that moral is knowing right from wrong. Show your trustworthiness to people you meet, respect them and never underestimate anyone.
Learn table manners at a young age.
Obey your parents. Follow the Korean proverb “do not walk ahead of the elderly, walk at the same pace”.
Involve manners in everything you do, the way you walk, the way you talk, the way you dress, the way you impress, the way you look and the way you hook!
Learn to be responsible and mature from an early age. That will definitely pay off later.
Respect and you will be respected. What goes around comes around. (Karma rule)
Never bully your classmates in any way possible. Do NOT do anything that can intimidate them, hurt their feelings or traumatize them.
Respect your mentors and teachers.
School is where you spend the first and most important years of your life, so do not be afraid to make mistakes. That’s a part of your growth. So, just learn to be accountable for your actions. Out there in the real world, companies will not look at your math grades, but your trustworthiness is more important. The way employers put it is “I may trust you with my life, but do I trust you with my money and my wife?” Your manners will distinguish you from others. Ill-mannered employees are toxic leaders and toxic team members even if they’re high-performers. The author claims.
Having manners is the new cool is definitely a must have guide for everyone who thrives to succeed in life and dreams about achieving more.
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