Be yourself – and allow others to treat you with respect
Let this one sink in, ladies. Who you are is perfectly acceptable, and, you are worthy of being treated courteously. Working out the rough edges can be a lifelong process, and now is a really good time to start!
Say “Thank You”
When someone gives you a compliment or does something nice, the best response is a simple “Thank you.” Please also remember, “Please,” “Excuse me,” and “You’re welcome,” which are other marks of good manners.
Give Genuine Compliments
A fundamental rule of good manners is to give. When you meet someone, you can always think of a genuine compliment to give, along with your attention and interest. A “Hello” or “How are you?” is most often not enough. Be generous with sincere words of praise, warm greetings, sympathy, or whatever is appropriate to the occasion.
Don’t be Boastful, Arrogant or Loud
When in polite company, always exercise self-control and good taste. Your voice, your behavior and even your clothing should reflect understated elegance. Please do not brag about accomplishments; a well-mannered person has no need for self-advertisement. Let your deeds speak for themselves.
Listen Before Speaking
Respect for others is a requirement of good manners. Listening to others is a way to show respect. Be genuinely interested in others; learn their names, and encourage them to talk about themselves. Never interrupt. Look them in the eye, and listen carefully.
Speak with Kindness and Caution
Before speaking to others, consider what effect your words will have. Also remember the language of the body (your posture and your mannerisms) is actually more important than the language of words.
Do Not Criticize or Complain
Negativity in any form is to be avoided. Ignore gossip; don’t participate. If you disagree with others, do so respectfully (agree to disagree). Since we all need to vent, reserve your ‘venting ’ sessions to your one or two closest friends/family members….period!
Be Punctual
Appreciate the value of time, yours and others. If you make an appointment, arrive on time. If you must be late, call first. Never arrive early for a social engagement (this is fine in a business setting). Lingering good-byes merely cause frustration and can ruin an otherwise good time. A quick, simple exit at the proper time is usually appreciated.
Do Not Embarrass Others
Demeaning anyone with rude jokes or an unwelcome nickname is disrespectful. In conversation, never ask embarrassing questions about relationships, or asking how much was paid for something.
Act and Look Your Best
Take time and care in how you present yourself – both in appearance and in manners.
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